Christmas time is full of occasions when all the family gathers and gets to talk with one another in a relaxed, festive atmosphere. Although they are less likely to admit it, our parents crave love and affection. Since parents don’t want to get their children upset, and vice versa, the idea of making demands often comes with the thoughts of rejection. But how do we show them our love? If we have plenty of time to raise our family, we have enough time to get along with our parents. The answer is simple: we can show them our love by respecting what they are doing for us and honoring their experience. When talking about parents and children, love and respect are usually the same words. Here are some examples.
Show interest in their life
Being interested in what’s going on with your parents and children goes long way beyond verbal expressions of affection. Learn about their work, hobbies, and passions, and pay attention to what they are enthusiastic about. Talk to them about these things and see if you can help them realize their interests. Not only is this the easiest way to connect with your family, but also the best way to show that you care about them.
Help them reach their potential
Life goals are the topmost priority for most people, so if you get a hint that a loved one is experiencing problems in reaching their goals, don’t let them ask you for assistance. Instead, try to make a contribution in any way you can. If needed, help your parents get over their mental barriers, and help your children reach over their perceived limits. By doing this, you will boost their confidence, motivate them to keep going and reach their full potential.
Be there when they need you
Keeping our loved ones feel secure when they are upset or facing hardships in life shows that we genuinely care about their wellbeing. When this moment comes, it’s important that we understand them, because this is when they need us the most. However, in some cases, no matter how hard we try, we can’t be with them. In cases of complex medical conditions, micro town-based aged care homes, like New Direction dementia care facility enable our loved ones to pursue their lives, in a fulfilling and independent way, as their condition allows. Using a revolutionary care model, these communities encourage residents to take part in various activities in a safe environment, which often wouldn’t be possible at home.
Don’t judge them
Everyone has flaws, and everyone makes errors, so you should avoid judging and criticizing you elderly parents. Accept them the way they are, practicing patience and tolerance. See if you can help them improve and add value to their life. Try to look over their mistakes, and appreciate their positive sides. This way you can raise their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. This approach goes a long way in strengthening the bond between generations and reducing the generation gap.
Praise their success
By acknowledging and commending their hard work and congratulating them on their successes, we show our loved ones that they matter. If we feel genuinely happy when they achieve their goals, either big or small, we’re keeping their morale high and further helping them make progress towards their vision.
Respect their time
Every one of us has their priorities, and shape our daily business according to our schedules. Disturbing others when they’re trying to focus on something important isn’t only inappropriate but also shows a lack of manners. We should also avoid calling up and dropping by at odd hours. If you’re looking forward to calling on your parents, try to be as punctual as possible, as elderly people have their daily rhythm. By simply adhering to these basic etiquettes, we’re showing them that we care.
We don’t need big gestures to show how much we care. Sometimes even a cup of tea in bed, a spontaneous hug, or game of draughts in the afternoon has a bigger impact than a perishable gift. The only way to teach love, respect and kindness to our children is to try to love our parents more than they love us.